How do you handle it? I would rather deal with the black of night or the gray/green of a storm than days that are just gray.
I don’t know what it is about gray days, but they drag me down. It’s bad enough to be struggling with depression. To contend with days, one after another, that just compel you to feel blue is something that drives me nuts. This is not just for people with Multiple Sclerosis, but it happens to everyone I know.
We all know that things that occur to your average person is multiplied times x for people with MS. Having to deal with days such as these is of particular interest to me.
I wonder what you all do with these days. I would love to hear from you about it. I have one friend here who simply stays in her pj’s all day and night. Don’t you think that would compound the problem though? I do. I would like to give myself a chance to pull out of a day like this. If I were to stay in my pajamas, then I’ve given up before the day has even begun. In other words, I am planning to have a bad day. If I plan it, then I make it happen!
We have to fight it along with everything else. At least I do. You know me, I don’t want to give in to anything MS or not. But there are days like today, when I just don’t have the energy nor the “want to” to fix it. I want to stay in my pajamas. I didn’t. I should have.
Here is what I usually do with days like this. I always have something to do that is laid back to kill the time. There are some things in life that are perfect to do on days like this. For instance, reading is one of them. You get all your goodies set out on the coffee table. Grab a blanket and a pillow. Then settle in with a good book.
Knitting is another favorite of mine. Nothing like chasing away the blues with doing something creative but where you don’t have to think too hard. If you are new to knitting, it might be frustrating so find something else.
Painting is another nice thing to do. I get out my oils and have at it. There are any number of things a person can do. Another favorite is to catch up on all my recorded television programs, again with the blanket and pillow.
Most people opt for sleeping away the day. I can’t do that although I wish I could. My body simply won’t allow me that luxury.
Sooooo—what do you do with your day?
Ultimately, I feel that there is no right or wrong thing to do on this day or any other given day as long as at the end of the day you feel good about it. Yes, you can feel good about wasting away a day! I do! I mean we work hard in other ways so why not give ourselves a break?
So here’s to all our gray days where it gives us the time to do whatever we darn well choose to do with it. It’s a good thing to look forward to days like these where we can bask in nothingness.
Friendship? What does it mean for a person with MS? I can’t tell you what it means for you but I can tell you what happens to me and what it means for me.
I have a multitude of friends but I only have a handful of friends. Does that make sense? Sure it does, when you think about it. Perhaps I should rephrase this. I have a multitude of friendly acquaintances I can count on one hand. These are the ones I consider to be my friends.
It’s not as though I am unwilling to accept friendship but it is a matter of how much I want to work at it and how much they are willing to put up with. After all, having a friend with Multiple Sclerosis isn’t easy to handle for most people. They think they can initially, but then it begins to wear on them. I know this because even though I have Multiple Sclerosis, I have only one other friend with it. Why? For that very same reason I just said earlier. It begins to wear on me because she behaves differently to her disease as I do mine. Heaven forbid I should have more friends with MS. I would not make a good friend. I can only handle one at a time. With knowing how I react to a friends with MS, I can only assume that others would react the same with me, whether they have MS or not.
Here I am with some friends and what happens? I’m terrible at it. Was I this way before MS? I think to a degree. What way am I talking about?
I struggle with the symptoms of MS just like everyone else. This means that I can’t be relied on to do anything at a specific time and place. One minute I feel like going and get done up, the next minute I am laying down in bed deciding that I can’t do it. Sometimes I go here and there with my friends, and before we settle in, I decide that I must leave. When my friends call and ask me what’s new? It irritates me because nothing is new. I ask them why they are calling. They respond with, “I just wanted to touch base and say hi”. I think that I make them feel this is a waste of my time.
Part of the problem is that I hate telephones. It is a necessary evil but for me, I use it to call for help or to get information etc. I don’t use the phone to keep in touch with people. I would much prefer to see them. I also have social networks, like Facebook and Twitter. I am seldom on there. Again, I find it necessary to have these internet connections, but I use them primarily for getting ahold of someone that I’ve not been able to get ahold of because of distance, like my children. They are the accept ion to all my habits.
People will finally reach me and say that they have left a dozen messages on my cell phone and act hurt because I’ve not returned their calls. I tell them that the phone is not attached to me and that I don’t turn it on unless I am in my car in case of emergency.
To be honest and at this stage in my life, my closest friend is the lady who has MS. It’s a natural thing to happen. Although she behaves like everyone else when it comes to phone calls and such, there is still a connection that is deeply rooted in the shared disease. I don’t have to go into great detail why I don’t want to do this or that. She is also someone that I am trying to help. She is deep into depression and I would like to see her get a grip on it. I want her to see the light at the end of the tunnel and I want her to start each and every day with hope and dreams in her heart. I want to see her aspire to something more than just her disease. At this point in her life, she wallows in it.
A great friend I’m not. I have a low tolerance for chit chat. I guess that’s why I blog. I can at least get the stuff in me out there for people to see and comment on.
If I am anything, I am very interested in telling people about this disease, and sharing with other MSers my take on it. I want to let others know that you can live with this as well if not better than other people regardless if they have MS or not. I’ve moved forward and every day is a challenge. If I can manage to get through each and every day in 5 second increments, then others can as well.
What I do well is love. I may have a low tolerance for inane things or conversations, but I love the people in my life. All of them, even the ones I call acquaintances. I have a great need and desire to reach out to them in the ways that count, ways that have impact on their lives and on mine.
I cherish each and every person I know and the ones I’ve yet to meet. I value the lessons I’ve learned from those in my past and they are not forgotten. They will always have a place in my heart.
To all of you I say, I would like to wish you a wonderful New Year and I am ever so grateful that you are a part of my life. I appreciate the fact that you hang in here with me and read all my words. You are my sounding board and I know that you are listening to me otherwise why would you subscribe?
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Hello you lovely people out there! Many of you have asked me about my tree and I have to admit that I did not put one up. Today is Christmas Eve. Who knows, maybe one will be put up today but I doubt it.
Why? It’s a very complicated story too long for this web site. In fact, it would take a book to explain it all. In short, over the years I developed a distaste for the Christmas hoopla. When my children were very little, I did do Christmas for them and I enjoyed it very much. They are grown now and far away. They can’t afford to come to me and I can’t go to them because at the present time, I would not do well traveling. Yet that still doesn’t explain my lack of enthusiasm for this holiday. Grant you, that’s part of it, my children and my MS, but it’s not all of it.
You’ve probably heard some people say that Christmas is all year round? Many of them say that as an excuse to not put up decorations. I say that because I mean it. I honestly believe that Christmas is a season for shoppers and merchants alike. This includes me in part, because I do buy gifts for my children and my husband. It’s a good time for bargains and an opportune time to get my husband to accept the gift of clothing and such, things he otherwise does not allow himself.
Christmas is and should be every day of the year and no, you don’t have to purchase something in order to celebrate it. The gift of giving is not material, but is in the actions we perform each day towards and for each other. Christmas is the gift of love. It is the quality time we set aside for each other to do nothing other than to be with each other.
We all have a gift each and every day of the year. We have the gift of the people in our lives who love us. All of us can provide this same gift back to everyone in our lives. I believe that love is the best gift of all and I’m certain that I’m not alone is this.
There are some who feel as I do, in fact many if not most, but they also believe in Christmas. I don’t know. I guess that I gift the people who are far away and that I can’t do much to show them how much I love them now that they are grown up.
I enjoy the season just like everyone else, but I don’t feel compelled to do as everyone else. Many years I do. I do put up a Christmas tree and all the trimmings but it’s mostly because I think that Christmas trees are so lovely all lit up. It is also a good time to invite people over for dinner and companionship.
This year, I have not put up a tree. It doesn’t mean that I’m not celebrating the season. I am, but in my own way.
I am spending this day, Christmas Eve, completing a song I’ve written for some special people in my life as a thank you Christmas Carol. That is ultimately how I feel about Christmas. I feel grateful for the people in my life. This includes all of you.
So to all, I wish you a Merry Christmas. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of your support and love. I give to you the result of all this love, the person you have made me.
Merry Christmas and have a beautiful New Year!
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Once again. Happy Holidays.
I wish you a happy holiday season, but I don’t care for Christmas much. I prefer New Years. I believe that many of us who have been around the block more than several times, probably feel as I do. Christmas is very stressful.
Take the stress of Christmas shopping then add Multiple Sclerosis to it and you are bound to find me in a heap in the corner of my living room. At least long ago you would. Over the years, I’ve learned to protect myself from this stress by removing myself from the “Christmas” crowd and sticking to the home front. Don’t get me wrong. I am not a Mrs. Scrooge, in fact just the opposite. I am a generous gift giver. I just don’t make it so that Christmas is the only time I do it. I give all year round.
Surprisingly, I have found that many people don’t gift give until Christmas. That makes little sense to me. To each their own and I’m not here to criticize. I am just stating that Christmas can be counterproductive to a person with Multiple Sclerosis.
I am urging you to take care, take a lot of breaks and if you feel you need to end your shopping day, do so immediately. If you are feeling this way when you take a rest, it is probably already too late to fend off the fatigue that will set in. Try and sense where your breaking point is, recognize it, and then go home before it completely takes over.
Once again, MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR TO EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU. I am looking forward to the New Year with you. We will travel a path that is our own and happily do so. We will be here to help each other out when we fall, and to bask in delight when we don’t.
I like to think of us all as a family here.
Merry Merry Christmas wishes I send to you and in the New Year. We will look forward to it knowing that we have each other as a family.
Your Magdalena O.
I went to a party last night with my husband. It was the annual corporate party at his work. It is held each year at different locations that are high end and stuffy. I don’t do stuffy too well. LOL.
Picture a free spirited person (me) with a bunch of quiet and reserved people. Mathematicians. I didn’t feel like going and I almost begged off. I do try and attend at least one event that the corporate bosses throw, and I had not been to one this year. I felt that I should go to the party, so I went.
Here is what’s difficult about events such as this. It happens at night, the absolute worst time of day for a person with Multiple Sclerosis. For me, my day starts to end at about 3-4 pm. I don’t voluntarily go out after this time. There is too much fatigue.
Fatigue? It’s different for each one of us as far as the details of it all. What is common, is that we all feel it to different degrees. The trigger for each one of us may be different as well although what is common is that the onset of it appears to happen later on in the day. When we are having a relapse, it is never ending, at least for me.
So there I am at a party with mathematicians whose tongues have loosened due to cocktail hour and those lovely little appetizers on the trays. People came up to me who apparently knew me. I smiled and pretended that I recognized them. There was something familiar about them but the memory escapes me. For the most part, they are men and not a one of them has movie star looks. Now mind you, I’m not making fun of the way they look. I’m only stating that the group has an industrious and intelligent look about them which borders on being dweebs.
Did I just say that? Well it’s the truth, at least in my opinion. The fun thing about mathematicians is that they know it and they willingly laugh at themselves. These are happy people. They have found a job doing what they do best. They get paid to play with their numbers. Not many of us can feel as they do. I was once told that the definition of happiness is to find work at what you love to do and get paid for it.
I lasted till after dinner. I could not sit still. The conversations around me was very little interest to me but only because I was not feeling well. It was so loud in the room. Why is it that restaurants, even high-end ones are so loud? What happens is that after a short period, I lose my ability to concentrate and it’s as though my brain short circuits from so much input. I can’t separate one conversation from another. It truly is unnerving and aggravating. I literally can’t understand what is being said to me.
This is why I don’t go out socially very much. I have a low tolerance for crowds especially crowds who have been drinking.
I feel good about the whole thing though. I wanted to represent my husband at work. I did. I did myself up with makeup, hair and nails. The day before, I went shopping for something to wear. The event that I dreaded did me some good.
You see, if you do something for someone else that you love, inevitably you are doing something good for yourself. At least try. If you don’t make it to the very end, you still did it.
I gave myself a pat on the back and the smile on my husband’s face made it all worthwhile.
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Well hello everyone. I know that I’ve not been very good over the past six months about posting in here, but I promise this will change. I think that you all get it. With MS one has to take the time to heal when one is not feeling well. It took ahold of me and tried to squash me into a helpless pulp but I won. I’m here with you and that’s where I want to be.
The last time I posted here was November 13, 2012 and now it’s the 24th. That’s not so bad, but not good enough. Allow me to tell you what has been happening inclusive of November until this past week.
Has anyone here suffered from extremely low red blood cells? I’m talking about anemia? If you have, please let me know in the comments. Does anyone know if this is an MS symptom? I don’t. Why don’t I find out for you. I will post a link here if I find something, Why don’t I check now? Okay, hang in there. I’ll be right back.
tick tock, tick tock, tick tock……………………………………..
Both vitamin B-12 and iron play a role in neurological function and the development of myelin.
Look at the above!!! I honestly didn’t know this. If you go to the link, on the side panel are other links that will lend well to research. I plan on going back there to do some research. Vitamin B12 plays a role in the onset of MS. Would you believe this? It’s no wonder my hematologist has me on B12 shots as well. Oh, I’m getting ahead of myself. But I have to tell you this. I love love love the internet. You can find anything here.
A few years ago, I was extremely short of breath. I craved eating crunchy foods, in particular things like almonds. I was freezing cold even though it wasn’t cold outside or inside. I was even more tired than ever and I just couldn’t catch my breath unless I was sitting perfectly still. I lived with this for about a month or so never realizing that perhaps there was a problem. I thought it was just MS.
I finally mentioned all of this to my family doctor and he decided to do some blood work. It came back with hemoglobin of 5 and the normal for hemoglobin is 12-13 depending on where you have your lab work done. He sent me to an oncologist/hematologist specialist. She was concerned about my levels and started me on a oral medication, of iron ferrous. It took nearly a year to get back to normal and I also had B12 shots at that time as well.
Around August of this year I became increasingly tired. Then as days rolled by, I experienced shortness of breath again. It’s an ugly type of shortness of breath. It’s where you can’t even take a deep breath in what is commonly called a cleansing breath. You want it so badly but you can’t do it. You’re starving for air. You hunger for it. Walking across the kitchen floor or just a few steps was enough to get that sensation. If I sat still and didn’t move, I could breathe, but the minute I swung my legs off the chair or bed it would begin. Sometimes I couldn’t finish a sentence or the sentence would end in a whisper.
Duh……I started to put 2 and 2 together and realized I’m probably severely anemic again. Did I tell my Doctor? No not yet.
I went to the Wellness Center here. I was a member of the club. I signed up with my coach and off I went to have my personal training. I do this twice a week. She was called away and I decided to do the treadmill. There were things I forgot to do or wasn’t instructed on how to do it. I didn’t realize it at the time though. You see, I was hoping that if I worked out, maybe I could have one of those deep breaths. To make a long story short, I fell off the treadmill and injured my back, leg, toes and neck. Ambulance came and hauled me away to the emergency room. While in the ambulance I kept saying I think I have whiplash and sure enough, I had whiplash. I’m still hurting from it.
So as you can see, I have been busy with a return of symptoms of MS unusually severe this time along with other maladies, falls, and ambulance rides each time. It’s not been a lot of fun.
During times like thsese, I have a tendency to hide out. I do very little but mostly lay around and try to recover. I began to realize that I was in a state of depression as well. All the more reason to hide. But you see, hiding; at least for me, is not a good thing. You just wallow in yourself and then you become depressed. The more depressed I became, the more I wallowed in my disease. A pity party began and lasted for quite some time. The very thing that I hate about some not all, blog sites on the internet.
While I’m at this, I should explain my last sentence, the one I said about hating some blog sites. I have visited many sites to see what is going on. For the most part, I would have to say about 90% of the blog sites, are heavily involved with throwing those “pity parties. This is not to my liking. As a member of some of those sites, it is difficult for me to hold my tongue and not start attacking some of the posters not in a mean way but in a kind way. Actually, what I want to do is tell them to stop all this bull s–t and get off their asses and get on with living. But this isn’t fair. They are not me. We are who we are and I just happen to be very strong of mind, not of body.
My defenses were down this time and I too joined the parties for awhile. I must admit that to you. We can’t always be strong. It’s a tough lesson for me to learn. I don’t know why my defenses were down this time, but there you have it. You see, this go-around, my Doctor decided that I needed transfusions in order for her to speed up the replacement of my iron. Every week I went in for a 5-hour ordeal of transfusions in the oncology center. It should have taken only three hours, but I became ill with the transfusions and had to take a bag of Benadryl first before the replacement started.
As time went by, I got bored with the parties and found myself again, but I still wasn’t ready to come out of hiding. Eventually I did and here I am again. A lot of things fell by the wayside during this time including this blog. Then I realized that I shouldn’t beat up on myself for having taken some time off from the real world. That it is okay to lie low and heal. I’m not completely back but I’m working on it.
So the reason for this particular blog today was to make you all aware that you should have your iron and B12 monitored at least every three months if not every month. You all don’t need any more problems than you already have. I’m here for you should you ever need me.
Well hello my dear friends. As you can guess, I am still at war with the hidden part of me. It is pushing and shoving at me. I push right back. I am sharing with you some of my deepest thoughts when I’m up until the wee hours of the morning. I wrote this one of those nights. I don’t feel that way any longer.
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The notes just pour out of my heart and into my fingers. My fingers tell me what’s in my heart. For instance, tonight, nothing I played came out happy. Everything came out in minor or dissonant chords that made a lot of sense to me. The longer I played, the harder the velocity until I was beating on the keys so hard that it felt like I was trying to push them out the bottom and into the hole with me. I realized then, it’s time to stop. A catharsis? Perhaps.
I’d forgotten how my fingers would traipse along the ivory keys telling me my own story, oftentimes unaware of the nature of my spirit until my fingers started their dance. There were times when I would sit facing the piano, start playing, and the music was so sad, that I would cry. Not tonight though. Tonight it was more of an extension of frustration. Frustration over the feeling that sometimes I can’t control the sensation of a wasted life.
I had such dreams. I reached for the stars and when I was just almost there, my fingers grazing the tip, my life changed dramatically. I became a mother. Motherhood was an absolute delight since I was but a child myself. So my dreams refocused and I looked at the world through my child’s eyes. He was a happy baby and because he was happy, I was as well. I became the mother my mother was not to me. That’s another story. My dreams were on the back burner along with the stew. In fact, they stewed there so long that they sort of fizzled away into blackened and charred remnants of a life that I gave up.
I am not resentful of my decisions. They were the right ones at the time. The resentment and complete and utter despair came when my children were no longer with me. I stood there with empty arms and no clear path to take. I tried to fill those arms for many years but I was stuck between a rock and a controlling woman, and to this day; I can’t forgive her. I don’t want to. I know who she really is despite the changed persona she puts out there. She slips in and out of people’s lives. She slips in to assert her position and when that’s accomplished and the recipient with blinded eyes acquieses to her manipulations. She slips out again. She is like water in your hands that no matter how you try to keep it from running out, it eventually does and you are left with empty hands and empty promises.
I digress and I will regret this posting tomorrow. Right now at 1:30 a.m., I just don’t care. I’m tired, and I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired. I fluff over how I’m feeling to people around me because I can’t stand listening to others go on and on about their aches and pains. I therefore choose not to divulge the true status of how I’m feeling from day to day. What’s the point? It never changes and that brings me back to my frustration. But it seeps out through my fingers when I sit in front of my therapist, my piano.
I’m vulnerable tonight and my fences are down. All the hurt and pain, past, present and future, psychological and physical looms in front of me and it’s doing it’s best to get in my way. For the next few minutes, I will let it keep me company. I’ll feel better tomorrow. It’s the weekend and I’ll have a real person to talk to instead of my dogs. Perhaps then, for a transitory moment, I won’t feel the frustration of lost dreams, and of the insignificance of my life.
Ugh. I really need to go to bed. I’m just ridiculously morbid tonight. I’m pushing aside these thoughts. Onwards and upwards.
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Here is how an average day goes by for me.
I’m usually awake before anyone else is in the house (2 dogs and one husband) primarily because I haven’t been to bed, or because I’ve been there and I’m awake already.
I look for my glasses, usually on my head, and head for coffee after I deal with the bathroom.
While the coffee is brewing, or if it’s being made on the K-cup machine, I let out the dogs and holler up at my spouse that I’ve let the dogs out. I can’t stand dog food, so he feeds them.
My walker and I head into my office along with the coffee, although most mornings, it’s my spouse who makes the coffee because I forget to. He hands me 11 or 12 pills that I take most of which are relaxants for my muscles. Of course then I sit at the desk nodding off after a few minutes and abruptly waking up. Drives me crazy.
You already know what I do next between my little cat naps. I play my games. I do this so that my brain wakes up and it also tells me how I’m doing cognitively, since I’m strongly affected in this way. If I do poorly, I know I need to keep my thinking hat off to the side and just work on light things. For me that is creative things.
My spouse goes off to work and I’m alone with the dogs. If they are inside, I send them back out so that I can have some peace and quiet as I get ready for the day. I don’t think much about anything as I lay in my whirlpool tub. I just have to concentrate on taking things five minutes at a time. If I think further ahead, I get confused.
Getting dressed is always a major hassle. I have to think about what goes on first and so on. I often forget to put on something vital, like my panties or a bra. Trying to lift my leg to get pants on is a trick since I can barely lift my legs. Getting dressed takes a long time.
I let the dogs in and we are all set for the day. I grab another cup of coffee and try not to spill half of it on the floor on the way to my desk. Once there, I check my calendar and see if I need to be anywhere. If I do, I set the alarm clock on my desk. Then I promptly forget about it.
Now decisions must be made. I have stickies all over the place and notes in notebook that I need to read through in order to wrap my mind around what needs doing. I try to get my phone calls done and anything else that is important like arrange for a test or what have you.
It’s very quiet in the house because that’s the only way I can think. The computers go on, I have three of them and so do the keyboards, I have two of those. I then try to figure out what has priority for the day if any. If nothing has a priority then I split my day between everything that I do. What might that be? I day trade, I compose music and have session work, I compose my own music, and now I have a business in the works with the internet so I have to study for my next coaching lesson.
I have not let go of my dreams or my ambition. I want to make lots of money so that I can pursue those dreams. I also do the things I do because I feel it’s important for my self worth. I need to feel like a vital and important person on my little patch of land.
I struggle through my days half asleep because of all the pills I take. The mornings are fairly quiet and the phone seldom rings. The afternoons get pretty busy but I try and curtail all appointments to end before 4:00 p.m. because then the fatigue sets in.
If I decide to work on music then the day and night is lost to it. Nothing else gets done. No food nor anything else. I fade away. So I do try and keep my musical work till late at night when everyone else is asleep.
If I pass something on my way to the bathroom for the 100th time, I try to take care of it.
If I can’t then it has to just sit there till my spouse gets home. My days are plagued by my attempts to get something done only to realize that I can’t do it, BUT I TRY FIRST.
Admittedly my afternoons are a fiasco. It’s as though I can’t make 1 + 1 = 2. My logic defeats me and I start on something, get distracted and start on something else and so on. By the end of the day, there are multiple piles of things I had been working on that are not finished. I take out my pad and make notes for each pile although those notes won’t make sense to me in the morning.
Sometimes my doorbell will ring. I try to get there quickly but people don’t realize that I walk very slow. Most of the time I watch whoever was there walking away. I’m disappointed because I want the company and I’ve not spoken a word all day half the time.
Besides the work where I try to generate an income unsuccessfully, I mostly write or compose, two areas where I’m completely at ease.
I drink a lot during the day but I normally don’t eat because I can’t reach anything. You would think I would be a skinny girl, but I’m not. Too many drugs prevent that and half the time I’m swollen from them.
The highlight of my day is when I have a Doctor appointment. Yipee, I get to go out. I have a car which frightens me. What if I fall asleep? But I like having it there to remind me of freedom, and I do take it out once in a while to run various small errands all within a 5 mile radius.
I am in pain from the minute I wake up to the minute I wake up again. I can’t get away from it and I can’t run away from my body. The pain sometimes paralyzes me into inactivity where all I can do is concentrate on making the pain less painful. I succumb to drugs if I have to.
The day ends with my spouse coming home to a dinner or bringing dinner home. It all depends on how I’m feeling. He turns on the TV and I run away to my office or my bedroom. Sometimes I watch TV, but not for long. I much prefer movies. There are no loud commercials.
I am but a fraction of the person I once was. I wear a mask of smiles and cheerfulness. When in conversation with other people it inevitably turns to their turmoil’s, problems etc… I try to encourage them the best I can. I write this blog for the same reason.
Now here is my point. That fraction of a person that I am, is still a person. She has needs, desires, ambition, sexuality, vanity, and a need to be loved not only through kind acts but through desirous acts. People don’t understand it. They treat us like we are disabled, we are; but we are not. Our bodies have betrayed us. My mind plays hide and seek with me. NOTHING absolutely nothing can be done in the old way. EVERYTHING is a struggle. EMOTIONS are more acute because you see things you didn’t see before. You see who cares and who don’t.
People want you to be a good patient and pat you on the head as they walk by. I’m not a dog although I can be a bitch. They don’t expect you to think or to verbalize what is on your mind. It doesn’t matter to them anymore. They have a mindset of you as a patient and take every thing you say with a grain of salt.
Yes, life is shitty. Yes, life has changed. But now I’m inside out, or outside in. I see the world from a different perspective. I see more than they see. I understand more than they do even if it is a mixed up jumble in my head. I truly understand how they see me and I DON’T LIKE IT ONE BIT.
I have recently dumped a lot of funds into a group of people who may be able to help me get a project off the ground. I believe they will because I believe they believe in me and my dreams. However, they don’t witness being with me, and I sometimes wonder if they would believe in me as they do now if they did. But I brush that aside because to think that would be defeatist and I’m not a defeatist.
I truly believe that you MUST try and do the things you believed in before you became ill. Follow those dreams. Go get it. YOU CAN, but only if you try. Think of “trying” as a muscle that needs to be worked. The more you work on it, the stronger it gets.
Don’t sweat the little things you can’t do nor the big ones. If something doesn’t work for you any more, then leave it right where it is so that you can tell someone to make it work for you. After all, you are alone during the day and you need to be able to do for yourself.
I am a compassionate and loving person. I carry those things with me. I spread them around when I go out. I am well liked and loved by those who know me. They are amazed at what I have managed to do even though my blouse is on inside out. I even surprise myself.
I’m going to say it yet again. YOU ARE ENABLED BY YOUR DISABILITY TO DO THE THINGS YOU DID BEFORE PERHAPS EVEN BETTER.
The only person you hurt when you give in to it is yourself. Sometimes it can’t be helped, I know this first hand.
Do yourselves a favor. Look in the mirror. Study yourself. See the child? See the adult? See the good and the bad? FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU. You are worth it.
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Depressed here. For all this talk of rainbows, the glass half full and silver linings; I’ve looked everywhere today and haven’t found one. So it goes, the ups and downs of having a demyelinating disease that eats you up then spits out the remnants..
What gets to me is that I have a supportive husband and friends and yet can’t talk to any one of them. Why? Because I know they have heard it all before and I’m being polite in not sharing with them. If I should tell them there is no reason for it, they look at me like I’ve lost my mind. I get these nibbles of happiness and then they slip away as fast as they can. I have to admit that I don’t get it.
I think that loneliness plays a big part in all this. The only people who can truly understand what you are going through are others who are going through the medical nightmare that we go through, not just MS.
There is another factor that plays a role in our ups and downs. For me it is holidays. I pretend to not care about them and for the most part I don’t. What I do care about the holidays is that they don’t exist in our houe. By this I mean that one day is like another. My husband is a wonderful caregiver but he worries so much about me that I am literally gasping for air with wanting to do something normal and FUN. What happened to FUN?!!!
Caregivers need to understand that we have a medical condition/disease. Most of us don’t have one giant lesion in our brains that makes us incapable of doing many of the things we used to do. I don’t know about all of you, but I need to get out once in a while to have some fun and be around other people other than my spouse. It’s like the song, “People Who Need People”.
If you listen carefully to the words, they are beautiful.
Caregivers and MSers who just stick to their homes are depriving themselves of the wonders of other people. Sure you have to take the good with the bad, but the good far outweighs the bad and it’s wonderful. It does so much good for the soul. Even if you’re in a wheelchair, scooter or using a walker or cane, at least you are out there. Those of us with incontinence, put on a diaper. So what! Come on! Live!
What is the point of holidays for us if we don’t have holidays within our own homes. I was like this, this past Christmas. No one was coming and we could not go anywhere due to both of us being ill. But my spouse put up the tree himself. Then I got into it a bit and did some decorating myself, but at the end of it all, no one came and so I just gave up on holidays myself.
I realized how stupid I was being because after a while, I realized that oftentimes people didn’t come out to us for one reason or another, but we celebrated anyway. Our families are widespread and live all over the world. It’s impossible to get us together all at one time. So what gives here? Why the depression?
I think it is mainly pain. I’ve undergone several procedures over the past 9 months and I’ve been in constant pain. The drugs I take for the pain makes me unable to drive and/or gives me a narcoleptic syndrome where I fall asleep at the drop of a dime. My friends think it’s funny because I will fall asleep for a few minutes right in the middle of a conversation and then when I wake up I pick up right where I left off.
So to be completely honest with you, I don’t feel like analyzing myself right now. The next couple of blogs, I am going to introduce you to a couple of people who also have disabilities and they’re “Now What?” lives.
If you’re looking for me, just look up when you come inside. I will be climbing the walls somewhere in the house.
Let’s see. Where did I leave off.
All of this started almost 9 months ago. I am still in limbo as far as a definitive diagnosis is concerned, but at this point, I hardly care.
WOULDN’T IT BE LOVELY TO HAVE ONE DAY, JUST ONE DAY; WITHOUT ANY PAIN WHATSOEVER? To be able to dance and run, to have strength, to have endurance, to be able to have a true belly laugh without fear of incontinence, to clean the house from top to bottom instead of hiring it out, to play ball with the dogs, to have sex with abandon or for that matter to have a libido?
I am a lady who sits before you with a multitude of problems. I have been turned away by two neurologists who tell me I’m a too complicated case and that I need to see a specialist in MS. I have one!!! He wants me to have a local one who can deal with the day-to-day problems of meds etc…
I’ve had many surgeries. I almost died last year. Now I have the added fear of cancer just around the corner as a strong possibility. Where is the silver lining you might wonder. How is she going to turn this around this time? Right?
Yes, I still have dreams and ambition but they seem insurmountable at times, in fact; most of the time. My goals in life are not solely for myself but to help others. I am working hard on finding an alternative method of income for all of us. I write music that has made people cry and laugh. I teach. The price I charge is a hug. I’m an artist. I paint everything in sight including all my walking aids. I just figure if I have to look down at a walker, it better have a picture on it that makes me smile. I am compassionate and passionate. I have emotional strengths. I listen well, therefore I am good at helping others. I am not judgemental of people, only of what they do or don’t do. I am a gifted and humane person and I’m patting myself on the back right now because there is no one else to do so, yet I know that I am talked about all over the Princeton area with admiration.
What I am most of all is lonely. The second thing I am is angry. The third thing I am is resolute. All this leads to my becoming a fighter and a doer.
Where is the silver lining? I am here! You are here! I write the words, you read them. I can’t stand the words ‘YOU CAN’T.” I CAN. Do you hear me out there? I CAN, and I WILL.
Each and every day is a challenge. We don’t know what we will wake up as. Are we crippled today? Are we so spastic that we can barely move? Are we cognitive today? Can we speak clearly and not slur our words? Can we remember people’s names? Can we retain knowledge today? The list goes on and on and you know what my answer is to all of this? Yes, yes, yes, yes.
Yes, we all have our hardships. But think about it. It’s a new day! Every day is brand spanking new! Now you can make the most of it or you can hide beneath the covers and let it slip by. I’m asking you to try not to do that. Beautiful things can happen whether you are disabled or not as long as you are out there offering yourself to the world. Who cares if someone likes you or not? Who cares if someone looks at you with pity because you are using a wheelchairs, walker, cane, etc…? So what if they stare? Stare back and smile.
The other day when I was feeling like I was the most stupid person in the world, I received a phone call from someone I’ve never met before. As the conversation went along, suddenly I felt myself being lifted and gently placed on a pedestal. I couldn’t stand on it, but I could sit on it and swing my legs. By being placed on that pedestal and being only 4’10 1/2″ tall, I saw the world from different perspective. I was enlightened and my burdens grew small. I was on top of the world because one person, just one person decided that I was worth a pedestal to sit or stand on. Had I been hiding under the covers, I would have never met them. All of a sudden I had another fighter in my corner and strangely enough, he too has his own disabilities. So here you have two people with their burdens in a backpack on their backs, laying aside those backpacks, and suddenly feeling 10′ high.
I continue to go through everything I’ve been going through and now I have another added scare, but you know what? It doesn’t matter. When “like” meets “like”, the whole world makes sense. You have the same possibilities, but you have to be out there fighting. Fight for you and fight for the rest of us. We can get through each day, five minutes at a time. Don’t look at the whole day ahead of you, just look at those 5 minutes. Make the most of them.
I don’t feel so lonely anymore. I don’t have to cry and look into a mirror, touch my face with the tears streaming down, and comfort me with my own hands upon the mirror because there is no one else to do it. I consider every day a day of possibilities.
My silver lining? IT IS YOU!!!
Here we go with Part 2.
First of all, before I continue, did you sleep well last night? I hope you did. I hope you had lovely dreams of the person you were and the person you still are.
Our bodies have changed much more dramatically than others. But realize this, their bodies are changing as well. Whether its biological or emotional. We’re all in the same big boat but some of us are off in little boats paddling around in circles sometimes for fun and sometimes because we are lost trying to find our way home.
But we are home! Home is inside us. Home is what we make it. If you want a sad defeatist home, you may have that. If you want an uplifting home where your house is picked up by a tornado and plopped down in a different location, you may have that too.
Home, Church, God, lies within us. We make it what it is. So I hope you had sweet dreams in your homes.
Back to the story.
After I had the stone removed, I was left with a catheter still in me to keep things open and working. I was told it would be removed at the following office visit. I couldn’t wait to get that painful catheter out of me.
At the office visit, I was placed on a table and given a shot of some sort, I guess to ease the pain of the removal of the stent. There was a nurse present in the room holding paper towels. The Doctor eased the stent out and I felt a spasm in my bladder. I saw some blood on the sheet. It took just a few minutes to do this.
He said I should feel much better after this and to come back in two weeks. Then the nurse handed me the paper towels and told me I might need them to clean myself off. They both left. So there I sat, an MS patient on this very high table in pain trying to figure out how to get off of it without killing myself on the way down.
I did manage to get off the table but I had to turn over on all fours and ease my way off. The minute I stood up, I felt another strong and painful spasm and this time urine came flowing out all over the place. Hence, the reason for the paper towels I guess. I cleaned up the best I could, got dressed and walked out.
All the way home it felt like nothing had changed. When I got home I told my husband, “it doesn’t feel like the catheter is out.” I went online and checked to see what happens to people when they have a stent removal and their stories were similar to mine except they felt immediate relief.
The next day I crawled up the steps to the bathroom to take a shower and while crawling I felt something dangling between my legs. I stopped and looked and saw this strange plastic thing hanging there. I went up the rest of the steps and into the bathroom and looked again. I pulled on it. It was then I realized that it was the stent! He had not completely removed it! I was shocked. I decided it had to come out. So without benefit of anesthesia I gently pulled on it. It elongated and I realized it was plastic and had this strange curly end to it.
My hands were shaking but I pulled on it again until it came completely out! I had another bladder spasm and a mess to clean up. I knew it! I knew that stent was still in me. I was shaken and in pain but I cleaned up the bathroom and took my shower in tears. The other end of the stent had the same curly end to it. I showed it to my husband who couldn’t believe his eyes. I placed it in a baggy and put it in my purse. I have not felt myself since then.
I called the Doctor the following day and asked him about it. He fumbled over his words and told me he had removed the stent, then asked me to describe it. I did and I didn’t hear another word from him. Instead, the head of the Urology practice asked me to bring the stent in so they could examine it. I told him no. I went for a couple of follow up visits but never was allowed to see the Doctor who had removed the stent. I finally stopped going to that practice.
My MS kicked into high gear. I think it was all the stress and the continued pain I felt in my vagina.
Note: If there are any young readers in here, you must understand that this blog is about life with MS with all it’s ups and downs. Only truths are written here and sometimes strong and explicit words are used. If this offends you, please do not read this blog.
I complained about a pain in my vagina for months. Finally I went to see my gynecologist. He saw a small lesion or tear in there. He also took a pap test and prescribed a topical ointment because every time I peed it hurt.
I no longer had the pain of the stone but now it was all centered in my vagina. Months went by and I finally went back for a follow up with my gynecologist who demanded to see me. He said I had dysplasia cells (precancerous cells) in my pap smear and noticed that the little lesion had now turned into a sore about the size of a quarter. He decided to do a biopsy right then and there.
The biopsy came back with dysplasia again but he wondered how far down it went and if there wasn’t something else going on because I just wouldn’t heal. It was decided that I should see and oncologist in Philadelphia.
I went and she too did an immediate and more extensive biopsy and also referred me to another doctor in Philly. He took one look at me and sent me back to the oncologist suggesting a wide-excision biopsy to see how far down the dysplasia went.
This was four months ago. I underwent the surgical procedure and the Doctor came in and said that there was no cancer found, but that the biopsy showed Vin I or Vin II dysplasia. That’s just a grading system they use for these things. Because she didn’t seem too concerned over it, I didn’t worry about it and I thought that now everything had been done that could be done, I would begin to feel better. Wrong. I began to feel worse again. Every time I went to the bathroom I nearly cried in pain. I couldn’t sit, stand or walk without feeling pain. I was placed on a strong dose of Percocet, a pain killer. Between all the drugs I was taking for MS and now the Percocet, I was walking around like the living dead.
Once again I am drained of all energy so there will be a part 3.
I need to get off this chair and lay down because I just came home from the emergency room. I made a promise for part 2, and I will make a tentative promise for part 3 tomorrow.
Go and get some rest. I am with you always.
Well hello one and all! I bet you thought I stopped the world and got off of it. Wouldn’t that be nice in a way! No gravity, just floating around without a care in the world. Perhaps catch a dance with the man in the moon?
I wish things would be that easy, although that wouldn’t be easy would it?
It’s been a difficult 3-4 weeks for me. How about you? How do you fare? Better yet, how did you handle it? I would very much love to hear from you. Don’t worry, I won’t use your name. I will call you a color instead, such as Ms. Purple, or Mr. Green.
Where to begin? Hmmm….. We all know what multiple sclerosis is don’t we? There are some similarities between us but there it stops. The rest depends on where the lesions are in our brain. Now I know my MS is acting up because of an MRI I had a while back. There are lesions now in the pons of my brain. It affects the autonomic functions of your body, things you don’t think about like breathing, digesting etc. Strangely enough, I had surgery back there (the pons is at the base of the brain), because I had an Arnold Chiari Malformation. This is where the brain starts slipping down your spinal canal and spinal fluid doesn’t get up to the brain as it should, which causes all sorts of problems. A few months later, I had to have spine surgery because the spinal fluid had built up and formed and arachnoid cyst which wrapped around my thoracic spine and caused yet another whole slew of symptoms. But this was about five years ago.
I’m selling the base of my brain on Ebay! Any takers? I’ll give it to you for free even.
So here I sit undergoing all this stuff over years besides the havoc that MS causes and then about 8 months ago, going on nine I began having a pain in my left side. It turns out I had a stone in my kidney. Would you believe? So off to the urologists I go to have it evaluated and they decided they are going to blast that thing to smithereens so that I can pass it in my urine. Hah!
My body being my body, refused to get blasted. The stone remained and I was still in agonizing pain. It was decided that they had to take it out surgically and meanwhile all this time, I had this catheter in me that was supposed to stop my urine from burning me when I peed; but it still hurt. So they gave me this purple pill which turned my urine a lovely purple, but did nothing else. So then they tried an orange pill. Orange is a color that doesn’t suit me, so my pee turned orange and again it did nothing.
I sat on the toilet every time I had to pee and turned my crotch this way and that way to try and not hurt, but damn it all; it didn’t help. I would sit there holding my breath trying not to scream out loud.
My MS symptoms worsened as my stress level heightened. I literally bounced against walls when I would try and walk. I slurred a lot and my vision became very blurry. Then of course the incontinence worsened but as luck would have it, my body would fight having to pee because this body knew it would hurt alot. For once, I couldn’t wait for surgery.
The day arrived and as I sat in bed waiting for my turn the anesthesiologist came in to check on me. He saw the bed rattling around and me jiggling and ordered Ativan be given to me. I was so frightened of it all. Some dweebs had to take me into a room and put a needle in my back pointing to where the stone was. Well my stone was perfectly comfortable where it was hiding in one of the crevices of my kidney. Well let me tell you something. A blind person could have placed that long needle in better than those guys did. They had to keep sedating me over and over again because each time they tried, they failed. You could probably hear me in China the way I was crying and screaming at those guys. I finally came out of there and they took me right in to surgery.
I am very very tired. I will continue this story tomorrow. But be aware–there is always a silver lining in this room! Forgive the spelling mistakes, I’m on Percocet and I’m too tired to do a spellcheck.
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Tuesday, Junr 6, 2012
Before I start, I really want you to check out this link
The reason why I ask you to check it out. This is a way out! This is a wy you can make money from home.
I’ve been searching for us, and this makes sense. Sure there is an initial investment, but it’s an investment towards your future and perhaps your family’s future. I bought it and I’m waiting for the package to come in. There is a certain amount of risk inovlved, but you know what? That’s a risk I’m willing to take. Money always helps, unfortunate; but true.
Have you ever noticed how stuff for disabled persons seems to costs so much more than for people without disease? Does that make sense? Why? Does anyone know? It makes no sense to me. I was frozen by that fact for awhile. Then I became angry about it. So the search began and I’ve tried numerous things online and 90% of them were scams to take my money, and take they did.
So what this is; is a push for you to either feel willing to take a risk and learn a new trade or not.
Remember how I’m always talking about enabling ourselves? That goes for money as well. Living on Disability is not good enough is it!!!
Well I have become involved with this wonderful man who is going to help me make money and lots of it. I thought that perhaps you would want to get on the band wagon and join me. Come on guys, hurry up before they are all gone! It’s not too late yet!!! I’m really excited and you know that doesn’t happen very often, at least not this way.
Have the funds you need to purchase the equipment you need and do it right now!!!
Here is the link!!!!
May 22, 2012; Tuesday.
Yeah, you guessed right. I haven’t been to Word Press to get my blogs straightened out. There are all out of whack and in the wrong order. I’ll get around to it some time soon, but for now let’s just ignore it.
Remember the umbrella I asked for in my last blog? Did anyone come up with one? It’s still pouring here under my blue skies and my silver lining is just out of reach.
Look, I’ve been doing all the right things. I have been watching my weight, trying to cut back on the smoking, took up classes at Robert Wood Johnson Wellness Center, and am building an addition to my house so that I can get around it easier without the worry of the steps.
I have dropped my Thursday knitting classes though. You want to hear the story of this because it really has me pissed off. Nah….I think I already told it and it is best if I just let it go. However; I can still be pissed off about a group of women who absconded with my girls and moved it without telling me while I was in the hospital.
So face it men and women in here. No matter what your ailment is or your disease, ultimately everyone is out for themselves. You will not be treated any different in the long wrong. You will get a lot of “oh poor you,” and so forth. People may ask a lot of questions at first because they are curious or because and more than likely, they think maybe they too have it.
I’m feeling bitter. Can you tell? A dear sweet friend started this blog for me as a gift because he felt I was a good writer and people needed to hear my take on things. He was so sweet and I loved him very much. But guess what? He too has gone on his merry way either hiding underneath his own covers and won’t have anything to do with the site. But I need his help because I’m just a musician/composer/artist/writer and so forth. I have never claimed to be a computer wizard. He is disabled as well and has another whole set of issues to contend with and somehow I messed up that connection with him. I still love him as my friend and I wish he would come back to me.
But do you see why I feel bitter? In the long run, they all seem to run away. I can count on maybe one hand the people who would stick by my side to the bitter end. However; I can count on an auditorium of people who would come to my wake! Why? Because I have become known around here. I’ve been in the papers several times and I do work for the good of those who have less than me. So I’m well known. So there they would all sit talking about me or something else, but the minute they left the wake, life goes on. I’m just a memory of a good lady who once lived in Princeton. The lady who loved to hug.
Yes, I’m still in the dumps! I have a right to be just like you. But you know what? Right after I get off here I will begin my work with my music and my art. I will finish painting the kitchen and I will keep busy busy busy. It’s the only thing that keeps me going. I don’t need a psychiatist even though I have one. I need the meds he gives me. But I’m the one who could teach him what to say to a person like me who is borderline between climbing the walls and screaming my head off or walking around my garden calmly picking out the weeds with my two little dogs.
I know my own answers, I just choose to ignore them right now as I write to you. I want you to know the whole me, not just the pleasant person.
I’m frightened because I’m having a cancer scare right now. I had three biopsies done and I’m sitting here waiting and in horrendous pain. I had to go to the hospital the other day just to have an afternoon of morphine.
So there you have it! Me! The whole me! The happy, sad, angry, bitter, bubbly and mostly positive thinking me.
I don’t know if you’ve noticed but on top of this blog from now on, I’m going to date it and so when things get messed up again I can fix it myself.
Do something nice for yourself today. I’m going to do something nice for me as well. Perhaps that silver lining will show up again.
My Word Press Blog is very messed up. Somehow, the blogs are out of order. I don’t know how to fix it. Surprise, surprise? I’m no techie and I can’t learn new things. So until I find someone to help me, for the time being, I will just leave it as it is. It doesn’t matter anyway, for now.
What can I say to you that you don’t already know? I am feeling the way many of you feel a lot of the time. It seems that with MS you can go for periods where you are “with it” in this world, or you are “out of it”. I have spent an extended time “out of it.” So you see, even though this blog is about enabling ourselves to place one step in front of the other and just live for the moment, I can’t even do it myself all the time. Sometimes you have to crash and burn. I did.
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think anyone else who is not close to me could tell. I didn’t get that far where I hid under the covers and didn’t come out. I kept plugging away at my life going through the motions in order to keep the stares away from me. What a way to live huh?
You see, I’m a person who doesn’t like it when people are walking around saying “poor Maggie”, or “did you hear about Maggie?”
I hate rumor mills because half the time they have it wrong. It started as a small fish and turned into a whale or just the opposite. So I try very hard not to give anyone grist for their conversations. I don’t like ringing ears. I’m very private and my business is my own.
“What?” you say. “Then why in the world are you telling the whole world about your days and the things you go through?” Well now calm down folks. This is because I am writing the book that I could not find on the bookshelves in the beginning of my diagnosis.
Recently, I have heard of others who are writing books as well, but its the same thing all over again. What I mean about that is this. They write about all their travails and it’s pretty much a book about what they’ve tried as far as ABCs etc… I steer away from all that. Oh sure, I write about the things I’m going through in order to inform the public what I wanted to know in the first place–HOW DOES ONE LIVE ON A DAILY BASIS WITH MS. What next. What happens to a person. Do you keel over and die? Do you go from standing to sitting in a wheelchair in short order? What happens?
This is just one story. There will probably be many others once this gets out. I’m here to address my issues and yours whether it is MS, Parkinsons, or whatever; then I try to put a spin on it where we can do something about it instead of letting it take over our lives for as long as we can
It’s truly been a battle these last few months and funny enough, it had very little to do with MS. I landed up with a kidney stone that they couldn’t smash up. So they had to operate. Then they didn’t take the catheter that was left behind to keep the ureter open for a week out completely after that week was up. So I had to take it out myself without benefit of anesthesia (topical that is).
This caused a lot of stress………..and you all know what stress does for people with MS. It exacerbates it. I continued to have pain down in my vaginal area to this day. Five months of pain and all the doctors do is send me between them. “It’s not my department go see a gynecologist.” Then, “there’s nothing wrong with you from a gynecological standpoint, go back to the Urologists.”
Test after test were done, all of them negative. The funniest one was the sonogram of my uterus. Huh? What uterus? I had a hysterectomy years ago! So there we were with goop all over the place looking at nothing. I didn’t have to call for the results of that test.
Measwhile, pain??? Hey docs I’m in pain! The urologists gives me these pills that turns my urine orange. It didn’t do a thing, so after two weeks of that, he gave me another pill that turned my urine purple. Hey docs, I’m in pain? I guess those pills were to make my urine less acidic so it wouldn’t burn when I urinated? I don’t know.
Hey again. It’s been hours since I started this blog. I had another Doctor appointment with my primary.
TO BE CONTINUED DUE TO PERCOCET……………………………
I’m back again, but several days later. Isn’t it fun not having your head on straight and not being able to remember what you were doing or where you left off? It ocurred to me today that I had a draft going, I’m here now.
Okay so let’s catch up! As far as the pain I’ve been having? It’s still here. I sit this way and that way and twitch all the time because it hurts where it shouldn’t hurt. Finally, my gyenecologist found what my problem is. It seems I have a vulvar lesion and we don’t know why. He sent in a smear and it came up negative. I saw him the following week and he did a more painful smear and sent it for cytologic exam. It too came up negative for STD, herpes, etc…
“Hey doc, I’m in pain?” Finally, got some pain meds to help me get through this. Meanwhile he wants me to see a specialist in Philly. I looked up the Doctor’s name and she is an oncologist. What??? I was told the good news is that so far, there are no indicators for cancer, but just in case………………..?????????? He wants me to have a biopsy and see this other doctor at a cancer center.
When it rains it pours. Anyone have a spare umbrella? There are dark clouds above me right now and I want to poof them away. It seems the only way I can do that is to take it step by step, follow doctor’s orders and be done with it. Perhaps then I’ll find my silver lining again.
Ok, ok, enough of this stuff. So that’s what I’ve been dealing with medically. It’s a lot of stress and a lot of pain but I deal with it. My shower is a lovely and perfect place to cry. The tears mix in with the water coming down and no one knows any better except for the redness around my eyes that I can easily contribute to shampoo or whatever.
You probably are wondering why I just don’t give in to my stressors and let the people around me cuddle me and help me through all this. The simple but unfortunate answer to this is that I am stronger than they are, emotionally that is. Oh they know that I’m worried and a little preoccupied these days and some who know me know my little games and second guess that I’m having some pity parties on my own. This is okay with me, after all what is a party if you don’t have guests?
I just don’t want to have indepth conversations about the things I’m going through. It makes it seem too real for me and that is sometjomg I just don’t want to have to deal with. It’s my way of coping until I crash and burn.
I keep busy. Keeping busy keeps all my fears at bay. If I have other important things to preoccupy my time, then I’m jappy. There has been a lot of construcion work going on at my place. You see, we’re making a Master Suite on the first floor so that I don’t have to deal with the upstairs veru much. We have turned a two-story home into a Rancher of sorts on the first floor. Isn’t that a good idea?
Alright, I admit to being under quite a bit of stress these days. This leads to an exacerbation of symptoms. I had become persona non grata for the past couple of months. Right? I don’t believe in inflicting the people I love with a litany of aches and pains or worries. I do state them, but only once or twice. The rest of the time I answer with a glare and they all know what that means. It’s been difficult, to put it mildly, but gradually left to my own devices; I found myself bored with myself and my problems. Mind you, nothing changed symptomatically but a lot began to change psychologically. When this changed, I found my strength again.
I’m here to tell you, like it or not; people will not tolerate our problems for long and I don’t blame them. Why? Because listening to my internal self eventually brought me out of the doldrums and back into the light of day. I hated being with me. I was boring to myself and I didn’t do much of anything but suffer. Which made me think about how dying would be someday. It’s a personal thing. Everyone will be sad and supportive up to a point, and then life goes on for them and you are left alone inside with yourself. at least that’s how I feel. You don’t have to think the way I do.
Our disease is relentless, unpredictable, and altogether nasty. Add to that the normal other medical things that can happen to a person, which is happening to me right now; well then, what a mess! It doesn’t have to be that way. However; it will be at first. We all have our own way of dealing with a myriad of unexpected medical and emotional turmoil. I just told you one way of coming out of the darkness of MS along with the possibility of cancer with the additonal turmoil of normal life that continues and whirls around you on a daily basis. Either you throw your hands up in despair; I did at first, or you turn it around and learn how to like being with yourself again.
It’s a conundrum.
Now I’m off to Word Press to find out how to get my blogs in the right order. All my love and prayers are with you all because I know that only we can understand each other. There is no way others will ever be able to understand what we go through. You have to endure what we endure to understand it.
I will be back. Until then, love yourselves and then watch the miracle of others loving you back.