MS Life

I’m in a foul mood today.  What’s funny about that is that when I get this way, I get very productive around the house.  So at least the house is happy.  I guess I just need to burn off some frustration.

I want to talk about “self-fulfilling prophecy”.  Have you heard of this?  It’s sort of a psycho babble term that says that if you believe you are something, then you become that something.  For instance, say you think you are sick; odds are you begin to feel sick although maybe you’re not really sick.  Or let’s say there is an abusive parent who keeps telling their child that they will never amount to anything.  Odds are that child won’t amount to anything because it’s been so ingrained in their minds that they are no good, they feel it’s pointless to even try.

The reason I want to talk about this today is that I’m more than a little frustrated with some people who live their lives as though they are at death’s door.  I’m no one to talk, I realize that.  I mean, who am I?  I have no reason to judge or any right to do so, so I make it plain and clear right now, I’m not judging.  What I am saying is that I am tired of being around people who think this way.  It’s like bad karma.  If you hang around it long enough and listen to it long enough, you start thinking the same way.  Then pretty soon you’ve got your chin dragging on the ground and can’t figure out how it got there. 

I don’t want to think of myself as disabled.  I know that I am.  Knowing is enough.  But I don’t have to think of myself as a disabled person.  If I do, I will begin to behave as though I am.  “Self-fulfilling prophecy”.  The mind is an incredibly powerful engine that controls everything we do and everything we think.  It is influenced by all of our senses.  These are just my thoughts, not something that I’ve researched. 

I’ve had a few weeks now that have been difficult for one reason or another.  This adds to the stress factors in my life.  You already know what stress can do to an already compromised immune system.  It doesn’t help and in fact, if you are burdened enough under these stressors, your body will react. 

Now I’ve been having a heck of a time trying to keep my body away from the influences of these stress elements, but how does one do that?  I don’t know, you tell me.   It is particularly difficult if your friends are having negative thoughts and delivering those thoughts to you.  Now you know I want to be a good friend, however; if day in and day out I am listening to these negatives in their lives, it eventually will trigger negatives in my life.  I know I’ve been there. 

I have worked so hard at enabling myself and try to help others to enable themselves as well.  Yet when you have friends who are determined to set their lives on a time frame of “good days” and “bad days” well, I throw my hands up in the air.  I don’t get it!  Why can’t every day be a good day and if it turns out to be a bad day then TOMORROW, I will say that YESTERDAY was a bad day.  But to start off the day saying that this is a bad day is not a good thing.  You will definitely have a bad day.  You’ve set yourself up for it.  That’s a shame.

So for crying out loud why in the world do you set yourself up?  Life is tough all around.  Life is even tougher for others around you that you are unaware of.  Why?  Because you’re not looking and you’re not listening.  You’re involved in having a bad day.  There is no time for others when your day is so bad.

So go ahead folks.  I am in a foul mood.  I guess you can tell that.  I started out having a good day and it has indeed turned into a bad day.  But you know what?  I didn’t set this day up.  It just happened to turn out that way.  Tomorrow and yes at the end of this day, I can contemplate on what a bad day it’s been.  At least I didn’t start out the day with negatives and tomorrow will be a good day.

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